Updated: Aug 23, 2021
Being corrected, not many appreciate it or receive it well but in Proverbs 27:6 it makes it very clear that your truly faithful friends may wound you by times but they do it out of love and concern. However, it seems that society prefers to live with the kisses of the enemy when they are deceitful and are done to serve the enemy's hidden agenda (the second part of Proverbs 27:6).
Funny thing how many, myself included, would rather have people just agree than to have someone call you out when you are wrong. Proverbs 26:4 warns us not to pretend with the frivolous comments of a closed-minded fool according to his folly or we will end up just like them.
I do not want to be regarded as a fool and I do not want to be in the company of any. Having good friends who hold you accountable is such a blessing and a necessity to ensure we don't become complacent in our views or walk with the Lord. We are called upon to correct the erroneous concepts of a fool otherwise he will be wise in his own eyes. No one wants to have to do this to their friend or loved ones and no one wants to have to receive it and have their foolishness point out to them because then they are forced to either take a good look at themselves and make the appropriate adjustments or they become offended.
As I am working on my walk of salvation I have had to take look in the mirror and make some adjustments. There were times that I truly started down the road of offense but when I put a true and real light on what was said I have two choices; be honest and make the changes or continue to live in denial and continue on the same toxic path. Was it fun? NO! Has it been worth the time and effort? YES!
The lies of the devil seem to be embedded in so many areas of my life and I was totally oblivious to many of them. Another lie was revealed to me just this week. The lie of "people pretend but don't truly want you around". There was a very minor, non-existent, situation this week and during it, I felt like a third wheel on a bicycle. So of course, I jumped right into that my presence had caused the oppressed feeling I had felt. Long story short, nope not true.
Satan certainly still has some control over my reactions and this past week was nothing but one test after another. Made several phone calls to people and no one returned them. First thought, well everyone must be upset with me. I can't explain why I automatically went there but I did. To be totally honest, I think I would be way more offended if I knew just how little anyone really thought about me. I am not saying that as a negative or a poor me way. I am saying it in life is busy, everyone is dealing with something and people forget sort of way. That is when I realized that maybe I care more about what people think of me than I honestly let on or even realized myself. Seems that I still have work to do in that area of my life. One step forward and two steps back seems to be the path I have been on this week.
I am so thankful for one very dear friend who shall remain nameless but their rational look at things and logical thought patterns on issues that have been crippling to me over the years seems to carry me through and provide me with a new way to view the world. They have no clue how much they bless me every time they are around.
These are the type of friends everyone needs. They have pointed things out to me, gave advice when asked, has confided in me and I in them and there is no smoke and mirrors in the friendship. It is truth, light, and spiritual. The hears involved are in the right place and there is no judgment or condemnation.
Real friends don't let their friends act like fools and agree with them. They tell them what they are doing or saying is not correct and even though the receiver may be uncomfortable a good friend will still do it. If the friendship is real, on both ends, then there will be no offense because do we really want to be walking around looking like fools, and those who say they are our true friends are letting us? I don't!
I can take be wounded for a while if it means not being viewed as a fool.