Have you ever just wanted to throw in the towel and be done with it all? I know for sure I have had this feeling more than enough over the years, but thankfully I can say I no longer have these feelings. That isn’t to say say that I don’t shake my head over situations and think – oh man, this isn’t much fun – but never do I get discouraged and want to give up. Attitude is the answer to getting to this place in life. Only I can control my attitude toward people, places, and things. No longer do I allow negativity to encompass my life. My thoughts need to be brought under control before getting my attitude straightened out. Learning to control my thoughts was about the most amazing life lesson I have ever learned.
I don’t have to succumb to the poison that Satan drops into my mind, I have complete control and can change the mindset immediately. For many years I accepted whatever popped into my head and ran with it. No wonder I wanted to give up, the utter foolishness that engulfed my mind was enough to make anyone want to give up.
We all need to learn to shut the negative down in our lives. The self-deprecating talk that Satan plants inside us and we foolishly nurture and allow these lies to become all-consuming in our lives. How many years did I spend feeling inadequate, stupid, ugly, unwanted and the list goes on? I never truly could be bothered to really try at anything because I truly felt there was no use as I was going to fail regardless. That thinking created most of the heartache and poor decision-making that inundated my life. Many times we are asked, “what would you say to your younger self?” Smarten up would be part of my response. I am closer to fifty-five than I care to admit, and not because of the age, but because I have more years behind me than I have in front of me but I am so thankful that I finally had my lightbulb moment. Learning to love me has helped me to love as God loves. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 outlines how we should love and if you have ever been at a wedding you more than likely have heard this scripture.
· Love is patient and kind
· Love is not jealous, boastful, proud, rude, irritable, keeps no record of being wronged
· Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices when the truth wins.
· Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
We, flawed humans, can not love perfectly like God but I know for a fact that I am maturing every day and making great strides at being better. When I finally accepted and experienced God’s love (1 John 4:18) I truly did stop fearing that if I messed up he would stop loving me because he is aware of my past mistakes and knows all about the ones to come and he loves me regardless. God doesn’t put strings on his love, he sees the heart!
It took me a long time to realize that the world’s love, which isn’t loved at all, comes with strings and is totally dependent and what you can give to the world with no returns. God also loves better than any human being that has rejected you or made you feel less than worthy. If another human being rejects you it truly does speak more to their shortcomings of their self-views. I hope that they all get their lightbulb moment and can be freed from the load they are carrying that Satan has lumped on their lives.
My fear of being alone is now not even an issue as God has proven to me over and over again that he is with me regardless of any situation. He has also blessed me with some amazing female friends. Some have been part of my life for years and some are new but all are wonderful. They are uplifting, they cheer each other on, and prop each other up when required. When I see or hear their names I know for certain that God sent them to me and that they are true blessings.
My hope for anyone who reads this is that you don’t have to be over halfway through your life before you accept God’s love, learn to control your thoughts and have the right attitude, and find joy in any situation. There will always be trials and tribulations in life but keeping your faith and remembering that no storm lasts forever is essential to living your best life.
DO NOT GIVE UP! Remember Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” With that promise at the forefront of your mind, continue on knowing that regardless of anything you have the only person who truly counts behind you!