Updated: Aug 23, 2021
Have you ever overstayed your welcome or ruined a relationship by simply just being around too much, I certainly have.
Learning to enjoy friendships while maintaining a healthy balance is biblical. Proverbs 25:17 makes it very clear that if people can get tired of you if you overdo it and are around too much. The version of my Bible actually says that they can "hate" you.
From my experiences when you are around too much the lines get to begin to blur and things you are not responsible for you seem to start taking on and having opinions where you have no responsibility. It is funny in life how many times we hear people giving their opinion where they have no responsibility.
I am guilty of giving such opinions and I have been on the receiving end as well. There is nothing more infuriating than having people tell you that they know what they would do when they have never been in the situation. Believe me, you have no idea what you would do u8ntil it shows up on your doorstep.
I am a strong-willed, straight shooter, with a strong personality. Some love me for it and others, not so much. But I can honestly tell the world that I have been faced with a circumstance that had someone asked me early in life what I would do, it would not have been in line with how I reacted. Those type of situations remind me of going to a job interview and they ask you those ridiculous questions about what would you do if. Well, let's see, that depends Mr. Boss on how my day has gone so far. Did I wake up feeling great or with a headache, did my kids do as they were asked or did they fight all morning, was the commute red light free or did I catch every red light in town, was my husband a ray of sunshine or a storm cloud and finally, I am a woman so is mother nature visiting or not? Because, unfortunately, the outside forces may and probably will play a major role in how I act in any given situation. Once before I die I would love to give that response in a job interview. However, as a Christian, I have to learn and react by following the spirit and not the flesh. There go my chances of ever giving that answer.
Relationships are like jobs, some you just love and they are fulfilling and you don't' need to put a ton of effort into them as they just roll along. Then there are the ones that are enjoyable but it takes some work to keep them a positive experience and then there are the ones that there are days when you really wonder is it worth the hassle. I believe that God has the same experiences with me. Some days I am a joy, some days I require extra effort, and some days he just shakes his head and says girl you are driving me nuts and that is something I have to remember in my relationships. God never gives up on me and I am worth the hassles, so are the relationships I have with my Christian family.
In Matthew 22:36-40 clearly tell us that our first commandment in the Law is to love God with all our heart, soul and mind and then it states that the second commandment is to love your neighbour as yourself. That can be as simple as wishing them the best in all things and being happy for them when good things happen.
The Bible has many verses that speak to loving your neighbour and it doesn't mean those who live beside you. We have all used the phrase it is a small world. Yes it is and they are your neigbhours. You don't have to fall all over them and be around all the time but we are called to love them, build them up, do them no wrong, don't lie about them, and do not judge them.
There is a difference between your relationships with your neighbours and your friends. Friendship is a remarkable relationship and one where you have made them your chosen family. There is a very simple verse in the Bible that explains friendship, Proverbs 17:17: a friend loveth at all times, a brother is born for adversity. That being said, you have to realize that everyone who says they are your friends truly are. Proverbs 18:24 warns us that if you have unreliable friends that it will soon come to ruin. But not to worry about those friends because there is a friend wh sticks closer than a brother; God!
There are many verses that provide direction on how to be a good friend and what to watch out for when you are identifying them. No relationship is always easy but if it ordained by God then it will always be worth it.
Remember, leave them wanting more of you not wanting rid of you!