Experience!

Updated: Aug 23, 2021

After finally learning to forgive myself for my past and all of the mistakes, I concluded that even though I wasted many years, I also learned an immense amount of lessons as I stumbled along.


I am a firm believer that some of my greatest lessons were learned during my worst times and my worst mistakes. To quote Oscar Wilde, “Experience is simply the same given to our mistakes.” Experience is something I have tons of and now that I have kicked Satan out and his whispers of my not being worthy, I can see how I may be able to help others overcome their “experiences”, to find their place of healing and peace and show a few what not to do and save them some heartache. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.”


Proverbs 2:3 reads, “The prudent see danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it”. That was exactly how I lived in the past, as a stubborn, can do it in my own strength fool. However, no longer, and when I begin to feel that things are just impossible I remember Luke 1:37 “For nothing will be impossible with God”. With God, that is the newest part of my journey. Doing it not only with God but while letting Him lead the way. That sentence was so easy to write and is becoming easier to live. It is not easy to relinquish control but as I look at the outcomes when I am obedient to God’s direction, it is very apparent his plans blow mine right out of the water.


I never really thought much about the saying “with age comes wisdom” but as I age and look back on my life I now realize exactly what it means. Learning and growing are all part of the aging process or should be. I realize that some people seem to be stalled in life and do not seem to have learned or matured but for the majority of people, there has been some growth. The good news is that it is never too late to turn your life around. There is no situation that God cannot use for good, even when the devil created it for evil. Psalm 30:11 tells us how sorrow was turned into joy. It reads “You have changed my sadness into joyful dancing; you have taken away my sorry and surrounded me with joy.”


How long did I let others steal my power and my joy? Too long. Once I became painfully aware of just how much time and control I was giving to others, it became abundantly clear that I needed to take back my life and hand the whole mess over to God.


For the past five years, I have been taking baby steps into the changes that I knew were required for my life to be spirit-filled. 2020 was not a bad or sad year for me, it was a different year, but I have endured much worse times than what has transpired in this past year. 2020 gave me, forced me, to slow down and deal with things I had been pushing aside for far too long. It made clear to me what and/or whom I truly needed in my life and what and/or who were not supposed to be taking up so much of my time. The things I used to deflect from my own issue were slowly stripped away. It was just me and God and I finally got real. The layers of my life were being slowly peeled back and the hurts, lies, and all the baggage associated with each layer were being dealt with. There are still many layers to go but God and I are working at a pace that he has set and that I can endure. We are getting to the root of the whole enchilada, to the heart of the matter. Some situations caused pained but once I got past the hurt and look back on the lessons learned, it does show me God’s love, and how at some point in life I may be able to use it to help others.


When people ask me how I know or where I learned something I no longer am going to use the negative words of past sins or mistakes. The answer will simply be experienced. Experienced is defined as having knowledge or skill in a particular field, encounter, or undergo.


Hello, my name is Frieda, and I have tons of experience.




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